I'm not Broken; I'm just Single!
By: La'Shaunda Ewing
Questions about singlehood can come from anyone at any time. And they tend to have one thing in common: they're exhausting.
*DISCLAIMER- I am not against marriage or relationships. I am just excited about my life!
I am a fabulous, single black woman with no kids. I enjoy sports and going to concerts. I am a foodie who loves to travel and loves God. Yes, I have multiple degrees, a home, car, great job, and many opportunities coming my way. By the world's standards, I should be a catch! And guess what? I am a catch. I caught myself!
But instead of being celebrated for my accomplishments, people rapid-fire you with comments, which they think are questions:
Why are you single?
When am I going to get some grandbabies?
Do you think your standards are too high?
You've never been married and don't have any kids?
What's wrong with you?
They fail to recognize that a woman's relationship status is no one else's business — and it certainly doesn't define her. Beyond that, these questions don't consider that many women are single by choice and are perfectly happy with their lives as they are. No, we haven’t had overwhelming crazy experiences, but we are living on purpose and with intention.
I suggest you practice this statement with me. "MIND YOUR BUSINESS!" I'm not broken; I'm just single!
Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a season for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.
SINGLENESS IS YOUR TIME TO PREPARE, PERFECT AND PLAN AND LIVE ON PURPOSE. In my early years of relationships, I was stressing myself out trying to justify my desires and even my travels for work. Embracing my singleness was a relief and brought joy back in this season of my life. No explanations needed!
Why hold up your life and desires waiting for “the one” when you can live now? Take yourself to dinner and a movie, take that dream trip or a few, go to that concert and pamper yourself. You deserve it! You can tell them honestly what you want because you experienced it first!
By enjoying your season of singleness, you won't settle for less, as you are wholly being in love with yourself.
Maya Mendoza said, "No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams."
I know several people in marriages that act as if they are single. Now that is broken. But some women will stay because of fear of getting back out here or just knowing their current foolishness.
Jeremiah 29:11 states, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."
Whatever your thoughts are this season, God thinks it is necessary, and you're amazing! He is teaching you essential lessons you will need for your business, ministry, community, and even marriage, or it may not be the right time. God has a plan; all you need to do is to start the work, appreciate this time, and remain joyful.
Genesis 5:1-2: When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God. He created them male and female and blessed them...
KNOW YOUR WORTH! SINGLENESS IS NOT A CURSE, but an opportunity to focus on your dreams and purpose without distractions or having to meet the needs of others.
Sis… It's your time! Tell them one more time!
"MIND YOUR BUSINESS!" I'm not Broken; I'm just Single!
La’Shaunda Ewing is a native of Cincinnati, Ohio. She is an educator, licensed minister, choir director, entrepreneur, life coach, business manager, and an event planner. She holds a bachelor’s degree from Wilberforce University and a master’s degree from Mount St. Joseph University. La’Shaunda ‘s first book, “B.O.S.S. Rights: A Leader’s Guide to Recognizing that You are Built for Opportunities, Success, and Service” will be released soon.